It’s a difficult line to define, and no, not all shippers participate in queer fetishization, but some key aspects of queer fetishization include:
- straight or straight-passing privilege
- shipping exclusively white cis men
- usually misogyny (writing out women, killing off women, bashing women for “getting in the way of” a slash ship, etc.), racism (ignoring people of color), and transphobia (ignoring trans*folk)
- consistently ignoring canonically queer characters in favor of slashing canonically straight characters
- comments indicating slashing all men you meet, to the point of disregarding individuals’ sexual identities
- treating shipping as activism
- ignoring, talking down, or harassing queer people for voicing their discomfort with fetishistic behavior

